Check out my latest Video Blog on the topic of blaming ourselves for the death of our children. I have spoken to 1000′s of grieving dads and one of the common themes is the fact many of us blame ourselves in some way for the death of our child. Let me know your thoughts on this topic.
The following is a link to a video I recorded regarding the subject of how difficult it is to describe the pain of losing a child to someone that hasn’t lost a child. It links to my Facebook page. Let me know what you think. Peace.
One of the things I learned from the pain I went through, was the power of reaching out to others that have also buried a child. Although it was impossible to do this in the beginning of my journey, there was a time I felt I had the strength to reach out. Actually, I wouldn’t even call it strength, I would call it desire/need and an important part of pulling myself out of the depths (dark depths) of despair. Despair and darkness only understood by another grieving parent. You must have lived it to truly understand it and I don’t recommend you do that. I had never envisioned myself as a “leader” in helping others, in fact, I was pretty self absorbed. It wasn’t until I started to look around and realized how many new people came into my life to help me that I realized I need to do the same for others. My final step in this journey to restoring the new me, was helping others up and out of that pit.
The link below is to an article that a friend sent me about the power of connecting with other grieving parents to let them know they are not alone and others “get it”.
Article: Parents Anguish Turns Into Mission
What are your thoughts on “reaching out”? Have you done it? Have others done it for you?