“It’s Tough” by Kelly Farley
People come from many backgrounds and perspectives that we often do not understand. I recently had an experience where one person’s perspective was different than mine. It occurred at my office with a guy I don’t generally work with. We were both in the washroom making small talk while we washed our hands. The subject of him being exhausted came up and I told him he should try to get some more sleep. Then he said “I would love to get a full night’s sleep but my daughter has been waking me up in the middle of the night, it’s tough.” He was referring to his new baby girl that was 4-5 months old. These types of comments use to really upset me, but not so much anymore, but for some he must have caught me on a bad day because his comment really pissed me off. I wanted to respond with, “You think getting up in the middle of the night to care for your healthy daughter is tough, try burying two children. I don’t even want to fucking hear it!”
I didn’t respond that way because I knew it wouldn’t be fair to him, he has no clue what it’s like to bury a child. Nor do I want him to find out. If you have not experienced the death of a child, you could not possibly understand how tough it is. If you have, you know how deep this pain goes into your body. There really are no words that can explain how much it impacts you in every single part of your life.
Have any of you experienced similar situations where people have said stupid shit and they have no clue they even said it?