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Archive for August, 2010
“Forgive All” – Just for Today
I received the following from a fellow grieving dad and friend that I met through this project. I will be posting a separate section of the poem Just for Today to ponder every couple of days. The poem was written for bereaved parents by Vicki Tushingham. Feel free to share with others.
Just For Today For Bereaved Parents (Section 3)
Just for today I will forgive all the family and friends
who didn’t help or comfort me the way I needed them to.
They truly did not know how.
“My Child’s Life” – Just for Today
I received the following from a fellow grieving dad and friend that I met through this project. I will be posting a separate section of the poem Just for Today to ponder every couple of days. The poem was written for bereaved parents by Vicki Tushingham. Feel free to share with others.
Just For Today For Bereaved Parents (Section 2)
Just for today I will remember my child’s life, not just their death,
and bask in the comfort of all those treasured days
and moments we shared.
“Try to Live” – Just for Today
I received the following from a fellow grieving dad and friend that I met through this project. I will be posting a separate section of the poem Just for Today to ponder every couple of days. The poem was written for bereaved parents by Vicki Tushingham. Feel free to share with others.
Just For Today For Bereaved Parents (Section 1)
Just for today I will try to live through the next 24 hours
and not expect to get over my child’s death,
but instead learn to live with it, just one day at a time.
“Trivialities of Life” – Truisms About Grief
I use to rush through life completing tasks on my lists just so I can check them off. I had “to do” lists for my job, home and my business. I tracked everything so I could get more ”stuff” completed. I had even reached a point where my health started to be impacted as a result of the stress I had put on myself. 2:00 AM visits to the hospital because I was having chest pains and anxiety attacks. Is this how I wanted to live my life? No, but I had grown accustom to the money and to the fast pace lifestyle. I felt if I wasn’t getting things done, I was falling behind. I was on the treadmill of life. Some call it the “rat race”. This all changed for me after I lost my children. I went 180 degrees in the other direction. Mainly because I couldn’t do much more than get out of bed and even that didn’t make my list some days. I have since learned to slow down and enjoy life a little more.
The following “truism” about grief really hits home for me. In reality whether your grieving or not, it is a good way to live you life. Slow, easy and keeping it simple. This was sent to me by my friend and fellow grieving dad that lost his daughter after her 2 1/2 year battle with cancer. Let me know what you think about this truism.
7. In one sense many people who are grieving have gained an advantage over others when it comes to the trivialities of life. Many of those who are grieving become impatient with these trivialities. Life has changed so much for them that priorities become completely realigned. Usually this transformation is good and empowering. It is important to accept the different person you may have become while grieving. The key point is to understand the changes and embrace the shift in what is important in life now. Of course, the challenge is not to get too irritated with those “water bugs” who flit through life and only attend to the most meaningless tasks.